How can I make him forgive me for what I did and how can I make him,fall for me again :( HELP ASAP ;(. As relieved as I was, I hated how it ended. So the therapist he goes to cannot be someone who just listens and says, Uh-hun. Furthermore, you have not gotten to the root of her behavior or your own. He immediately changed again asking me to come back and promising me we would be ok. Hi Betty, This situation may be your wake-up call to take care of yourself. So much i just wish things were different i cry all the time and he sees it hell ask what wrong i say nothing of course but deep down inside my heart is breaking and it sux! He got a cdl license and started a trucking job. He didnt seem to like that very much. That is reason #2 for a therapist to help you. I think it would be helpful to talk to a therapist who can ask you broad questions about your life, your family, your history. One of his stops was a couple hours away from her house, she drove to him and they had sex in the cab of his truck. We live together, and I think he is planning on proposing to me, he drops a lot of hints, and says he wants to spend his life with me. She said that I proved many of her suspicions about males behavior toward women to be true in my actions, and it hurt me to the core to think that I resembled her rotten father. Can you talk while he is in the military or is he overseas? I was very hurt and confused but after long talks we decided to stay together and move with his parents to a new state, thousands of miles away from my family. I loved him so much I forgave him the next day thinking great were talking again atleast. Enough time has passed that hatred is not what comes to mind when I think of him. We are both 28yrs old and when we were 16yrs old he cheated on me and we broke up for a year. Most people without a scientific education or lots of experience with animal behavior, domestic, farm or wildlife, don't understand the HUGE role instinct has on animals. Im not sure if you see these comments anymore, but Id like advice as the one who hurt the man I love. And he is the most important thing in my life. Alone. Every time I try to move on I cant and end up talking to him but in the back of my mind I dont know how it will ever work since I have massive walls up due to our past that I feel like are impossible to break down. I came back a few months later and life was good really good then one day he asked me to find an email with some info on it he needed for work. Shes obviously not in good shape where is she right now but i am definitely not falling for another trap. God can heal this and change your partners heart. He told me to file for divorce the other day, two days after he asked if I would take him back.my heart is breaking all day long over this. We had a good relationship. Certainly, when my alarm goes off at 5:30 in the morning so I can get ready to drive my daughter to school, I would much rather turn off the alarm and roll over for some more shut-eye all else being equal. The first time, you just opened yourself up and there it was. My life is complete with him in it. His reactions are not normal. And she was a virgin. Sounds like he was using you, plain and simple. How do I save this? He did stop wearing his wedding ring and he changed my name in his phone to my name instead of wife. It saddened me that I was so beaten down by his anger and I couldnt be supportive or help him. Because I finally sm telling the truth about the wolf snd now there was nobody to believe me. Its hard enough as it is. But my heart is broken and doesnt understand why we have to be apart to do this. We have been together for 5 yrs how do i get him to fall in love with me again? I know I did not handle it right myself. for me my ex never mattered. I also try to reduce communication with her. so I told myself that if he is married I will see his wife coming time went on I feel inlove with him he used to go to Mpumalanga 2 weekends a month I never minded as he had a daughter there who her mum passed on. I cant seem to leave get alone until she tells me why. Like I said I never had a good example of a man or what to do in a healthy relationship, so for the most part I was kind of clueless on the fundamentals, so I made a lot of rookie mistakes. It only happens once in a while, like when i hear a song that reminds me of her. There is girl I have date for a month and within that month we had a problem. I really do feel horrible for what happened and I love him so much. We dedicated everything to be with each other as we lived separated by the Pacific ocean. For me, that was the fundamental basis of our relationship. BUT, living with my parents for so long showed the worse side of me. I noticed she seemed insecure at times about me wanting the relationship in the past month. I pretty much ignored him for the whole night, and I danced with my male friend to make matters worse. We had been together 9 months and things werent always perfect but I was so in love with him. To make it work, you do need to become a listener like she wants. I was hurt. But this time it feels like he is running away from the most important thing in our lives. If only Id been more patient and stayed away from her awhile so she could have been thinking like she said she would. I need some help. sometimes crying myself to sleep and asking what happen to us.everytime i face him, i would hear the words he say.sadness really overwhelms me. how do i tell him that am very sorry so that we can continue our relationship coz i know i hurt him with my words but i need his forgiveness. Hello, I just read this article and it really resonated with me and has given me some much needed hope. I knew her bc we went to school together. I believe he was married to his expo for about six years. Someone tell me what to do?? Hi, i have a girlfriend that ive hurt for a year and a half. And i just want my best friend and lover back. We both love each other and care for each other but as of lately I feel as if Im falling out of love with him. Thank you. I dont know how to carry on without him in my life. I was naive in thinking that not reaching my goals wouldnt hurt anyone. She says she needs space to figure out what she wants. We cannot always show our true colors to the people at work, in the grocery store, or on the subway. See, these things make me think that perhaps you can be controlling. Work and study werent going well because of the problems at home. Someone looking at our life from the outside would think we have it all; a beautiful family, two successful careers, a nice home and great friends. Its because we were all blessed with great imaginations. We were both becoming distant and have both attempted to break up with each other but could not as we both still truly care for each other. If the problem was your lying, then the question is: why did you feel a need to lie? So I give people tools for this such as affirmations and guided imagery. Help Im confused and really want to fix our marriage. Fast forward, she badly needed to see me in May but I prevented her cus I was confused about my status. We had a lot of fun and great moments spent together. Maybe one day you'll know the unconditional love that compels a bleeding soldier to drag a friend with war torn legs out from the jungle and into the one and only seat in the heli. Let me comment on one or two things: The song is about inner conflict and wanting to come apart but still find a place in the other person's heart where they can be again. But his words also remind us that behind the clouds, the sun is always still shining. I also lost my mum at the age of 9, which comes with its own issues. With a little insight, you can easily tell whether someone is a soulmate or a twin flame. I dont know what to do. He denied hooking up for sex with anyone in reality. What can I do to show him hes my everything. He didnt however, and 2 days later I ended up alone with his phone by chance. Of course Ive been tested and done all the practical things but the guilt is why I suffer because he is a wonderful person and did not deserve that. If he wont listen, maybe you can write him a nice email explaining how you now see your mistake. You are saying that he is home and wont let you come? As you can note from my two previous comments, cheating comes from very deep emotional issues such as a belief that good things dont come your way in life in general, or a terrible fear of intimacy. I really need help. 47-63). Will he love me again? Good therapy does not have to last years and decades. I stopped living with her about a week and a half before she broke up with me because I wanted her to have some space because I thought she needed to mature, When she did break up with me she said she was happier without me and was a completely different person when I was gone. The truth is that a boyfriend or husband can never give to us what our parents didnt give it would never be enough. Hi im only 18 I know Im young, but 3 years ago I met this amazing girl. So this is what I get out of your story. please give me some ideas i am lost dont know what to do thank you again for answer my desperate email good bless you !you are given me hope thanks again. Hi Shan And then when I realised about the drinking, and started watching for the drinking and realising it was happening EVERY day, and we had conversations about how I dont care if he drinks, but please please dont hide it from me because I cant bear the deception, but it continued anyway well, after two years of this, the final straw for me came 8 weeks ago when he drove drunk. Instead of fighting, you really needed to understand what was up with him. And I cant understand whats on his mind. I just know that was what I needed to see and it may be what others need as well. I often recommend therapy not because a person is sick but sometimes it is just good to get insight from an outsider. Hello, Ive been with the same guy for 5 years weve been married for one. Final point and I will leave you with this: real love is loving the character of the other person. If I truly begin to love myself and become a caring and devoted man to her, and tell her again how sorry I am about the way I carelessly handled our love? I finally went back to the US and told him I wanted out if the marriage. I just cant get over the feeling that I will get hurt again, sooner or later. I realize now I pushed him to do some things he did not want to do and did not respect or consider him like I should have. about 5 months ago i met this amazing woman. I do indeed miss my former spouse and best friend. He is someone from my past that I used to fool around with. 3weeks ago I discovered he has a another woman there in Mpumalanga what must I do. We planned to try several different things, but the first time we did this we brought another man in. I have been totally working on myself also inside and out. I love him so much, I feel I lost my best friend but I have to respect myself. My husband felt he had fulfilled his part but I was slacking with my end. I now have divorced my husband and am learning to love myself and focus on my children. Hi Deb, I met my girlfriend during freshman year in college. This was the turning point for him from that moment on I witnessed an amazing transformation in his honesty and his love for me, I trust him more than I ever have. They'll never leave each other. It is not just one word that ruined things. I told him at the beginning that I didnt want to sleep with the whole town, that I want to be exclusive with one guy. My fianc who I love very much and have been together for almost 10 years and have 2 children. We continued on fine after this, falling in love being all consumed by each other. He claims until this day that she is just a friend who was there to visit his mother because she took care of her as child. Why he did it. So I know shes laughing at me like yea trick I got your husband,he chose me and dumped you. but few days ago we broke up. When hes with me I try to see that he wants to be with me but at the same time I just want to go to bed and be left alone. I asked him what that was all about & he complained that Peter had made him feel like an idiot & incapable of being the good mechanic he is. I started to see her less and less and took her for granted as it went on, while she was still madly in love with me and only wanted it to work. One day my boyfriend checked my phone and caught me I dont blame him for getting mad. He claims it is just an intense friendship. It doesnt matter if that is true. He will say it back if I say it first, and on the day I moved, he said it first a few times. he says he doesnt want to fix us as he cannot love me in that way again? This is why she sees you as stuck in a cage. Interesting that he has a not-nice mother and an ex-wife that was not nice. Even though you didnt actually cheat with this male friend, what you did sounds like spite and that is not healthy for a marriage. I just cant believe he is able to just get o we me this quick. Talking with him doesnt help. That is, your partner is so anxious to wish away all the bad in the relationshipwhich is understandablethat he/she may make you feel like he/she is more concerned with what he/she is getting out of it than what you are being offered. Am i just afraid of being hurt? Not to be a buzz kill but counselors who would be qualified to help you are few and far between. The best relationships are made with two people who are secure within themselves. She is now talking separation and I think it is a really bad idea. We talk about getting married in the future and we both know that we want to be long time life partners. The feeling of love is so exciting that people just want that feeling and will take anything in the way of dirt so they can have it, almost like an addiction. What is NOT appealing is being desperate. She needs space she said and I am willing to give her that. I cant get it through my head that this is what he really wants. Of course we got back together but he left me another 2 times after. You might attraction and repulsion towards someone. He genuinely tells me that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. He has physically, verbally, and emotionally abused me. My first session is this friday. After careful self reflection and evaluation, I cheated because I was ambivalent at the very beginning of our relationship and this is why. This last time I was there I couldnt stop crying. What I cant understand why things need to change now he knows?!!! Communication stopped also, basically everything that makes a relationship work doesnt exist anymore. Over the year there have been some good times but also bad times where I panic, start to really worry and spiral into a depression. Her mom tells me that my wife stills loves me. But I have now and I have realized how much work I need to do on myself. Often, the challenge isn't finding love, but daring to face one's own defenses and let love. My husband stepped up behind her; spooned into her & hung his crossed arms across her shoulders leaving them hanging just above her breasts. Also he had lost a job around the same time. And Id have done that for him cos we do that occasionally. Maybe she needs individual therapy to get to know herself better and respect her own feelings better. The problem to me seems like you cant separate in your mind the good man from the bad things he is doing. Needless to say we dont get along, but my fianc say has now brought up the issue that I dont show him enough affection so he drinks and takes off. She couldnt and cursed me out never to hear from me again. While hes been nothing but open, honest, and loving, I managed to let my past color my view of him, and treated him in a way that would normally be directed toward my exes. I should mention that she once referred to herself as his girlfriend. The whole idea of being open has been closed completely after this. I need advice. Is what Im doing and planning on doing the most optimal way to go or no? I currently work full time and provide for the family and we are comfortable and can manage to do fun nice things. What did you learn in your counseling? But i stayed around. My problem is, I feel that I gave him an inch and he completely disregarded how I might feel if he went further than her pleasing him. We started dating and lasted 3 years and our families even met and spent time together and loved each other. You have opened up your soul; youve been vulnerable, and what did you get for it? Please can you advise how I should act. I moved to my mothers the next day. Researchers in Attachment Theory call this ambivalent or fearful attachment. Understand that it's natural to still love your ex. This broke my heart because Ive put and given up so much for her and always said this was forever, but to realise she doesnt feel the same way broke me! It was so bad I needed to be put on medication for depression. But if the person who is hurting you is dragging you down, know when its time to leave. He met me at my car door. her but as time went on the love she had for me We had to go to Home Depot back and forth because the contractor couldnt get everything straight one time. He just says if I block her and she kills herself then I will never forgive myself For an inexpensive solution, perhaps you would like to read my book which is available on Amazon The Healing Is Mutual. It is also really good that you could figure out that part. I am so unhappy with my marriage and in the plans of leaving once I return from a job. Do you think theres still a chance for us? Why not show him this article and see if it makes an impact? Its Maria Dr. Deb and I answered your question about how could he have GROWN TO NOT LIKE ME? It looks to me like you are taking good steps your husb has a therapist and is getting alcohol counseling. When I talked to him, he revealed his feelings and we started dating. My boyfriend and I started dating 2 years ago. Meanwhile, yes, you should both get counseling to help this process. Do you think we still have chance to be together again or if he will still love if I change my attitude? She had left her 2nd husband & was house-sitting for friends. I wish it were easier than that. But my boyfriend and i decided to try and fix things. The meeting was not good. You can't do that this. But Im at a loss on how to make up for something that is in the past and cannot be changed. To give us a new start and to find jobs. Im so hurt right now. Move on!! I know that she most likely will be happier without me since I caused so much damage to her, but I really want another shot at becoming the only one she loves. Since the last two weeks in April my husband has been spending the weekends with his female friend. It looks to me like she felt YOU didnt care about her. Things were not good at home, and Ive always believed that he rescued me. I really dont think this situation requires something that you can do to fix it. I was in shock I think, I think im still in shock. Ive been trying to research these and understand him more. Trust is rebuilt, and the deception in our minds that thinks there is fear is unveiled to show the light around us. It saddens me that our children have a father who wants to be around them, but cant stand to be around them when they are near. What IS appealing is a person who thinks well of herself. For the first 5 years , we were great. I was stubborn for not doing this a long time ago. She doesnt return any I love yous or I miss yous. I suffer from PTSD due to my ex-husband stabbing me as well as cheating and other forms of mental abuse. Im just ready to move on. IM HURT! I have been dating my boyfriend for 2mnths now..I stay in Nigeria while he stays in the U.S. or that you are together and he wont let you return to the States (if that is home). You'll even realize one day that there's a love out there stronger than what you're feeling now. Ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months. I feel for you. But a few weeks prior to him first kissing me, I tried to kiss him when he hugged me and he pulled away, saying be happy with what just happenedmeaning a hug and an I love you. But I didnt like that he was still entertaining her calls. Ive lost his patience. May I recommend a video on my own website called 3 keys to a spectacular marriage? When we first met and also 3 years into the relationship she loved me then but then saw changes in me. The more we try to deny them, the more they try to muscle their way in. i go and visit him in his country when i can to try to heal and build the relationship. My heart is just with her but she was in the wrong place during our separations last year. I said that we can make it work if she just talks to me, but she has to want it. I found her on his Skype. Hi Shay, I cant control it but thats what Im working on right now. Your boyfriend will need some time to see what he wants. That is all I can offer without talking to both of you. Zeki & Romaya (2008) looked at people's brains while viewing images of the faces of people they either loved or hated. At the moment she said leave it here at the moment I dont think shes decided yet as she is currently trying to heal. We are and she wants us to continue to live together, further she wants us to buy a house together, and we will vacation together. Not knowing i was replying her on my phone. Ive suggested therapy but he refuses. im loosing my best Friend, soulmate and the love of my life, my home, ive no Friends to speak of, no job? I wrote on here in November of this year. The advances came from the other woman and its shameful to say that I did not resist it at the time because I was still emotionally conflicted given all that had happened. She said she was glad I didnt attend the wedding and that she had more fun without me being there. Is it possoble and whar should I do. But now since the past 1 year I fell in love with him but he says he fell out of love for me and doesnt think we will ever work out. I am so emotional, physically, and mentally attached to this man I am with. From dealing with this myself, I understand where you are coming from. What do you think I should do? Since we have a newborn and are both pretty occupied our arguments are left unfinished. Giving means compliments, little notes of appreciation, thinking about what you can do to be helpful and thoughtful, etc. I know I love her with every ounce of my being, but throughout the relationship, I managed to abuse her physically and mentally. Do you think I could ever love him again? Someone help :(. He was rude, impatiend and miserable with me. I dint know what to do. She broke up with me because she is deeply hurt and betrayed . We went through some hard times in the relationship with his loss of jobs and he shut down and became lazy while I worked. No one can live a life without them. I was with someone for 7 years through out this relationship there was a current drug use addiction and I turned into someone I cant even comprehend today. No more telling excuses to her. Im working on me I dont want to lose him..Ive seen him once in almost 3 weeks, since I got out. it could be a hundred things. Loving each other and really enjoying each other. I am really confused. At the initial stages of my relationship with my current boyfriend, things could not have been better. Night before she texts me that its formal. When outside circumstances like that happen, its a signal for you to think: How can I improve myself? But I cant go through non-stop abuse and humiliation to get there. I have looked up article upon article on peoples experiences and tried to seek advice from other married couples that I know but in the end, I cannot figure out if I really want to stay or go. My relationship is of almost 4 years and hasnt been going great recently. What do I do and how do I make her be in love with me again and be on the same page, not just me bleeding my heart out with nothing in return? Whether physical or emotional, affairs tear the fabric of a relationship. His response to my asking why he couldnt make one of those phone calls in front of me is that He didnt have the courage to talk to her in my presence. Incidentally, good Marriage & Family Therapists are skilled in working with both the individual and the couple. I low key want to move on, away from him. I had been clean for over a decade. We would go a few days or a week being normal but it always came up, and to be honest she never TRULY believed me. We were best friends. As he is, he is a safety risk for your kids. He still was there when i needed him and vice versa. He said we need to start over because we have both become different people than we were. I thought she was living with friends or her godfather as usual. She is unable to plan or focus. Now after 28 years of marriage he works with someone that he finds attractive. I just feel so afraid all of the time. Why would the woman I love take something from my past and stab me in the back with it? She lost the first time but tried again the next year. Although it was very out of character for me I recently cheated on him with another man who makes me feel happy and wanted. We broke up. 3. Otherwise, you are liable to not like something about this person and hurt him again. And what can I do to make him trust me again? I didnt even want to buy that expensive house because I knew Id be in school and I didnt want him to become financially overwhelmed bit what do I know? We fell in love and were happy. I wasnt happy before but now Im down right depressed and I dont think things will ever work put but I cant imagine a life without him in it. Dont get back Once a cheat will always b a cheat. I am so lost without her. He said he wasnt going to ever speak to her and he wanted to make things right. I lost a lot of weight another guys told me how good I lookedhe never said one word! Give yourself time to work through your grief. I still cry from time to time over the pain he has caused and I know he feels awful about it. He hated the arguements and most of all he felt I had betrayed his trust. It just is. Or keep trying ? He seemed very hopeful and focused on succeeding there. Over 3 years back we were fighting every day and things got really bad. insanely in love wit heri promised to come see He asked me to move in with him I refused as I didnt want to tush into things we recently had a baby all was good he is still asking me to move in but I cant. Yes, please address this issue of emotional intimacy with someone outside of our relationships with our partners. Neither could I. Started out when he was about 23 he was in a very bad car accident broke his back in two places was in a come or for three months and he survived and today I or no one would even know how bad he was hurt. But the guy himself, uh-uh. We are like soul-mates and only like the comfort from each other. I am so stupid!! Please! She is used to just keeping things inside, and I think she is finally full and its starting to seep out of the cracks. This article really hit home. I went home with someone for a one night stand. I was in love. I dont know what to do. We both have had some trying experiences and abandonment issues before we got together. But how can i come back from that. Anyway, go easy on yourself. Im limited in what I can do sometimes, due to medical problems, and my husband has been amazingly supportive and no pressure about it. I was pretty much begging him to take me back, and we met up at the park earlier so we could talk. She also hasnt asked for a divorce and I dont want one either. If you see your significant other as the reason for your loss of personal freedom, you may hate them a little or a lot. As most people trying to make sense of a break up, Ive searched what I can do and found myself here I feel betrayed all over again. I told him I didnt want him talking to her and he stopped. but recently, within the last few months I have made so many huge mistakes by saying so many hurtful things and though I am deeply ashamed and regretful of my actions and my hurtful words, I know that sometimes people cant ever be forgiven and cant ever be loved again. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, How to Handle People Who Are Eternally Evasive. What hurt was that he completely ignored me. And i saw a video of him with another guy. I was impatient and I ended up pushing her away completely. Where does this other girl stand ? Right now I dont even like or desire to have this man share a space with me & question whether love really does exist. This is so unlike him. I thought we always talked about our feelings. He became heartless in my eyes and didnt think about my feelings or anything I feel disrespected and stupid. Hi Deeksha I dont know what to do. 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